This one is for R.F…
The cycle of life is pretty simple. It comes in three stages. Birth…..LIFE…..Death.
The beginning and the end are fairly easy to understand., it’s the middle that gets complicated.
What we choose to do with our life is what determines self satisfaction that morphs into emotions experienced when in a state of well-being. Otherwise known as Happiness. It’s a child like phrase that to often gets the shaft, from very serious and driven people who find it impossible to be satisfied. Money is important and can buy comfort, but it can’t buy happiness.
I have always told my children to choose well when deciding what to do to earn a living. For one simple reason, they will have to wake up everyday either happy about their choice or hating life.
It appears that your dad is a very unhappy man because his life didn’t turn out the way he expected. This is probably true for at least 90% of the population, possibly even more. How we handle this disappointment determines the emptiness or fullness of our lives.
As he attempts to relive his life through you, he fails and you fail alongside him. The confusion lies in a simple misunderstanding. Just because you are from his loin does not make you a carbon copy of him. So it’s literally impossible for you to satisfy him. Unless he can one day see you as an individual with your own path. Only then will he be able to appreciate you for who you are.
One of my favorite sayings is, No one is better at being you than you, so don’t waste your time trying to be someone else.
Start today and be who you are and go get the life that you want and live it as yourself. Make sure that your choices allow you to obtain self satisfaction which will equate into that simple child like phrase “Happiness”. This action will surely result in success. Be confident, and remember you may fail, but you are not a failure. Pick yourself up and keep moving forward.
As you walk through life and LIVE and LEARN. You will become exactly who you should be, a truly independent individual. There will be a cost for independence. As you know all too well, there is a cost for the alternative also. Nothing in life is free. Choose well.
Remember you are you, not your dad. So practice mature ADULT behavior. No more arguing or yelling. He wants you to react to his actions, grow thicker skin and stop being a sponge and gain super powers that will allow your fathers words to bounce off your chest and back at him without a single word out of you as defense. It takes two to argue, unless you are in a mental asylum. Then you can argue with yourself and probably with great success.
I realize that your dad will think that what I have written is just a bunch of crap. But that’s ok, I have super powers.
Your journey through life is about to begin. You only get one chance, so make the best of it.
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